Seven Games About Different Types Of Love For Valentine's Day
We all know the drill: Valentine’s Day is when you do something special for your loved one or celebrate being single with chocolate, friends… and video games.
But love isn’t always about young starry-eyed couples giving each other gifts. In fact, Aristotle, Plato, and other philosophers identified multiple kinds of love that we experience throughout our lives. This year, put away your dating sims and spend Valentine’s Day playing games from a variety of genres that explore different kinds of love as defined by the Ancient Greeks.
Storge – parental love
What is it? The love parents feel for their children is the theme of many tales. A special connection ensures that a parent will protect their offspring from harm no matter the cost. However, sometimes this affection can grow between strangers, making it even more inspiring.
Game to play: The Last of Us breaks your heart from the moment you pick up your controller. Set in a bleak, devastated world where an infectious spore turns humans into zombie-like creatures, the constant threats of death and violence leave little room for love and hope to blossom. Joel has survived these dark conditions for 20 years and works as a smuggler with his partner, Tess. When he is asked to escort Ellie, a teenager immune to the virus, to Boston, Tess forces him to take the job despite his reluctance. Watching Joel come to care for Ellie as a daughter during their cross-country adventure is even more powerful knowing what he’s been through in the past. The strength of their adoptive father-daughter bond is at the heart of the story and makes their journey truly moving.
Philia – sibling love
What is it? Hidden beneath the hair pulling, name calling, and petty rivalries of childhood lies the power of the sibling connection. For some, having a brother or sister means having a built-in best friend: even when you disagree, argue, or get mad, you’ll still look out for each other when it matters most.
Game to play: Siblings abound in many video games, but one story that truly captures the idea of brotherly love is Brothers: A Tale of Two Sons. United by their desire to save their dying father, the two brothers brave a journey through dark, unknown territory to find a cure for his illness. Even without dialogue, it is obvious during their adventures that the elder brother is fiercely protective of his younger brother and the younger brother looks up to his elder brother in turn. The two learn to work as a team as they encounter friendly villages, shadowy mountains, and a fantastical cliff-side laboratory. Faced by hardship that forces them to adapt and grow in unexpected ways, Brothers is an emotional example of the power of sibling love.
Philautia – selfish love
What is it? Selfish love doesn’t necessarily mean narcissism and isn’t always negative. Rather, it can refer to self-acceptance, knowing what you want, and pushing through adversity to achieve happiness. This might lead to hurting others, but caring for ourselves is a necessary step for finding love outside ourselves.
Game to play: In Gone Home, Katie, the protagonist, returns from a year abroad to find a note from her younger sister Sam taped to the front door. Through a series of journal entries Katie finds scattered throughout the family’s new home, Sam talks about events in her life she would usually have shared with her sister. In addition to missing Katie, Sam mentions the frustrations of attending a new high school, her fear of applying to a creative writing program, and her love of Street Fighter. Eventually, she begins a relationship that requires her to make a difficult choice between what her family wants for her and what she wants for herself. Whether you agree with her decision or not, Sam chooses what she believes will make her happiest regardless of the consequences, demonstrating the complicated nature of selfish love.
Agape – selfless love
What is it? On the opposite end of the spectrum, selfless love involves putting the needs of others before your own. Though this can refer to doing something kind for a partner, it’s typically interpreted as goodwill and generosity toward all living beings. This altruistic love can range from random acts of kindness to making the ultimate sacrifice to protect others.
Game to play: Commander Shepard’s entire journey to save the galaxy from the Reapers is characterized by selfless love, but it is shown best in Mass Effect 3. Even with the danger they now face, many of Shepard’s potential allies continue to focus on their individual problems rather than banding together against their common enemy. Despite the frustration of years of ignored warnings, thankless work, and political in-fighting, Shepard never loses sight of what’s really at stake. Whatever the means and the end, the commander stands against a seemingly insurmountable foe out of selfless love for all life, accepting the risks so the rest of the galaxy has a chance to live on.
Eros – sexual love
What is it? Sexual love refers not only to a love of intimacy, but of beauty and truth. Rather than expressing romantic interest and passion, some use their sexuality as a form of self-exploration. This multi-faceted love uses lust and desire to address sensuality, spirituality, and the subconscious without the need for romantic attachment.
Games to play: Themes of sexual love are explored in the nightmarish puzzle game Catherine. Vincent Brooks and Katherine McBride, his girlfriend of five years, have been discussing marriage, but Vincent is hesitant to give up his life as a bachelor. While Katherine puts more pressure on Vincent to make a decision, he meets Catherine, a free-spirited young woman who sees sex as a natural way for two people to enjoy each other’s company without the need for further commitment. In contrast to the marriage-oriented Katherine, Catherine embraces freedom to express her sensuality as a part of her identity and pursues Vincent for her own reasons. Vincent’s response to her advances and the ensuing relationship offer a unique perspective on sexual love.
Platonic – friend love
What is it? Different than the so-called “friend zone,” the strength of a friend’s love lies in its simplicity. Friends can confide in, care for, or hang out with each other without the expectations of a romantic relationship. Though it may grow into something more, it is more than enough for most friends to know they have found a best bud who will stick with them through thick and thin.
Game to play: If there was ever a character who learned the value of friend love, it is Neku Sakuraba from The World Ends With You. Starting solidly in selfish love territory, the headphone-sporting misanthrope is thrust into a deadly game where relying on your partner is key to survival. Much to his chagrin, his bubbly partner Shiki, friendly rivals Beat and Rhyme, and the mysterious Mr. H force Neku out of his self-imposed isolation and teach him the value of interacting with others. The game quickly progresses and the challenges become increasingly difficult, leading Neku to realize how lucky he is to have made a tight-knit group of friends who are willing to support him no matter what.
Pragma – wise love
What is it? During any relationship, love goes through phases and changes along with the people in it. Throughout the events of their romance, their affection evolves as their lives together stretch into the future. Eventually, they know each other so well and have been together so long that their love becomes a core part of who they are. Wise love is born from years of the give and take of living with someone you love.
Game to play: To The Moon has players traverse the memories of Johnny Wyles, an elderly man whose final wish is to go to the moon. As memory specialists Eva Rosalene and Neil Watts travel further into Johnny’s past, they find that all of his important memories include his wife River. From the time they meet to the years after her death, River’s influence and importance in Johnny’s life are clear for all to see. Neil and Eva witness the ups and downs of Johnny and River’s relationship as they accept each other’s flaws and attempt to push past misunderstandings out of their deep love for each other. The feelings they share are beautiful yet mellow, a bittersweet love that is as moving as it is wise.
From friends to family, people to giant chimerical beasts, video games continually explore themes of trust and affection in new and meaningful ways. The fact that this list contains RPGs, survival horror, and shooters shows that the old axiom is just as true for games as for anything else: sometimes, you can find love in the most unexpected of places. Happy Valentine’s Day!